Many couples avoid ending a relationship near Christmas because they prefer to spare themselves and (possibly their families or kids) the added dimension of the backdrop of the so called “Season To Be Jolly”. Unfortunately though as Psychologist and couples counsellor Stephen Betchen points out , “some partners wish to […]
If we have experienced a negative sexual experience either recently or in the past, we can feel very confused about how we feel about our bodies – possibly loosing contact with that part of ourselves altogether. Or even experience a strong dislike towards our bodies and physical selves. For sexual […]
One way that you can tackle triggers during sex if you have experienced a very negative or abusive sexual experience is to use the SCAC approach by Wendy Maltz. This can help you feel safer in the moment: Stop – Become Aware Calm – Yourself Affirm – Your Present Reality […]
Olivia Rodrigo says that she finds out potential red flags in potential boyfriends by asking a new date “a very oddly specific question that I ask guys on first dates,” she said. “I always ask them if they think that they would want to go to space. And if they say […]
Have you ever been confused about whether you are about to enter or have entered a healthy sexual situation? One way you can determine if you are about to engage in healthy sex is by asking yourself if your current situation meets all the requirements of Wendy Maltz’s C.E.R.T.S. healthy […]
Ever wondered if there is any difference between why and how men and women have affairs? Researchers Selterman and colleagues (Selterman, D., Garcia, J. R., & Tsapelas, I. (2020). What Do People Do, Say, and Feel When They Have Affairs?) investigated men’s and women’s motivations when beginning an affair as […]
No matter where you meet someone – on an App or in real life – when you meet someone new it can be really tempting to make this the focus of your life and put the rest of your life on hold. This means in practical terms you can end […]
The time old problem of a woman writing into the Guardian’s advice column who wants her husband to be more loving and then she will want more sex, and the husband who says he will be more loving if he has more sex: Pamela Stephenson Conolly gives this wise reply: […]
Interestingly dating is a relatively modern concept. In the past you did not choose a date you “courted” to find someone who would be financially viable for you. Nichi Hodgson, author of The Curious History of Dating, explains that up until 1870, “women couldn’t keep property or money or goods […]
Here Are Some Clues: Love is a choice! You can’t make someone love you or want to be your friend or partner. However there are some ideas you could consider when thinking about your relationships and friendships: Healthy relationships are sacrificial Even if a cost is involved. For instance if […]
While many couples dream of a romantic holiday together the first trip you take could be a deal breaker in the most dramatic way possible. The New York Times in May 2024 reported on a report from Dating.com that half of all couples shockingly break up after their first vacation […]
Holiday romances can be one of the most exciting romantic experiences you can have – away from work, relationships – routines of life – no waiting for the bus or washing up! There is so much freedom to experience out of your natural habitat and also even feeling like a […]
It can be helpful when assessing our relationships to understand what is a healthy relationship and what might not be – one classic example of a relationship that may not be healthy is a co-dependent relationship – take a look and see if you can see if any of these […]
When we are getting over a relationship we need to keep it in perspective. Just because this relationship has not worked out doesn’t mean that all future relationships will be the same. Some things to keep in mind are: Accept that not all relationships go the whole way: But that […]
We would like to welcome Tunde to our counselling team. Tunde has worked with a variety of clients including working with women affected by relationship issues, domestic violence, and sexual trauma on a one-to-one basis. She has extensive experience working with young people in youth counselling services and as a […]
In their book “Boundaries In Dating” Cloud and Townsend talk about Red Lights and Yellow Lights and why we need to be aware of these when we are dating. Yellow Lights: All of us have imperfections – things that we need to work on and so will our dates – […]
