If you are happy being single that is a very positive place to be. There are many advantages to not having a partner – for example you can be more focused on your career or studies. At times though, it is not easy always being single in a society that often promotes being in a couple as the status quo.
Perhaps you have been single for a very long time and you are tired of it; or maybe you find yourself single again after a relationship break up or bereavement; or it may be that you have been in the dating game for a while and it hasn’t brought you the relationship you really desire. If you would really like to share your life with someone and that isn’t happening to you at this point, then it can feel painful and lonely. This can be especially difficult if you have found that your friends are getting married or moving in with their partners and this isn’t the case for you.
It can also be very frustrating and disappointing if you are spending a lot of time on dating apps – but they hasn’t provided you with the committed relationship that you really want.
However, there are ways of breaking out of being alone to having healthy relationships where you are in a stronger position to finding the partner you desire.
“Hugely valuable course”
“I gained progress and insight that was super helpful”
“I used to feel so much anxiety around dating but I now feel much more confident and much clearer”
At Take Action Counselling one of the strategies we might suggest that you consider taking our Take Action Single And Dating Eight Session Course.
This is an eight session course for single people which is topic based and information giving but allows time for sharing experiences and feelings. During the course we focus on different aspects of being single, we look at our self image, our relationships and ways out of negative cycyles of behaviour. Tools and ideas for moving forward to gain better relationships and a healthy empowered life with new hope and goals for the future.
However, if you don’t want to take the course that’s fine! We can also offer less structured sessions where we can provide a space for you to think about your past and present relationships, this can give you important information about what kind of person you are attracted to and is drawn to you including and how you relationships play out.
You and your counsellor would also have time together to explore your thoughts and feelings about relationships, attraction, and the dating process. You may also like to take a look at your past and present relationships, how you interact with others, how you express your feelings, sex and sexuality and how your relationships develop and how you might like some change in the future.
This would give you a clearer idea of what you want from a close relationship, what your values are, what to do when there is conflict, clues that the relationship is going well, the role of your friends in relationships and how you can build a relationship from the first meeting to a place of intimacy.
Counselling focused on singleness can help you to:
- Understand why you may be drawn to people who disappoint
- Have a stronger sense of yourself and what you bring to dating
- Increase your confidence and communication skills
- Put past relationships in perspective
- Become attracted to more healthy people
Please email rebecca@takeactioncounselling.co.uk with any questions and if you’d like to make an appointment.