No matter where you meet someone – on an App or in real life – when you meet someone new it can be really tempting to make this the focus of your life and put the rest of your life on hold. This means in practical terms you can end up spending all your time and energy with your partner. However, a relationship is like a deck of cards – you give one at a time not the whole deck at once. It is rushing a relationship for example in the first few weeks of meeting someone to tell them all your problems or to expect them to be there for you in the middle of the night or to lend you money. It is also rushing the relationship to start talking about marriage or moving in during the first few dates.
Try and allow time to develop a friendship with your date instead of heading into an intense heady romantic affair This gives a better chance for a stronger connection. You are both building a relationship together and that takes time. Time is one element you cannot cheat in a relationship but often in our insecurity and excitement we may wish to rush ahead to the next stage when we haven’t really built a strong enough foundation in the first stages. One good test of a relationship is to see how they get on with your friends.
On Saturday 16th November we will be holding an on line workshop for people who are single and dating.
The aims of the workshop include:
- Healthy use of Apps
- Finding our deal breakers
- Building good boundaries
- Spotting Red flags
- Understanding our anger and pain
For more info email us at rebeccca@takeactioncounselling.co.uk